Wednesday, October 26, 2011

More Unexpected Blessings

I am not sure why, although I could make some pretty good theories, but there are more ladies out there who have struggled through miscarriages in silence than I ever would have imagined.

The nurse practitioner at my doctor's office told me that 30% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage. I thought she was lying. That is nearly one third. Sure, a few of my girlfriends had experienced this loss, but 30%!?

As I have tried to be open and transparent about what I am learning/growing in Christ through this, I have had literally countless friends, acquaintances and virtual strangers confide that they too have experienced the pain that comes with miscarriage. The 30% number does not seem so crazy now.

It's these ladies whose words of encouragement have meant so much. They are indeed the ones that know what to and what not to say, when to and when not to say whatever should or should not be said.

An unknown number of our Christian sisters, church members and lost friends and family members have suffered in silence or are even now in pain. My reason for hashing all this out in such a public way is to make my self and my story available for God to use as He sees fit. Wally and I desire "our" story to be used to minister to these that are hurting and for God to be glorified in the process.

We so want others to be able to see that we do really believe all that we have said we believe - that God's promises of His goodness and mercy are just as real in the hard times as they are in the easy ones. So, we are refusing to put on our "church masks" and just "say" the right things, the things that everyone expects us to say. We need to be real, especially now, especially in our loss, in our sadness, in our hurt.

I am now a member of a new sorority, a new sisterhood. Just as I prayed that God would use me in my college sorority chapter, I am praying that God will use me in this one too. I have received many unexpected blessings already in this sisterhood. I am now so much closer to so many ladies- they have been a blessing to me. I pray that God will allow me that same privilege too.


Kathy Britton said...

As time goes on, God will be able to use your experience to minister to many ladies.
I am still praying for you and your family. As bad as you hurt right will get easier. You will NEVER forget...but it will get easier.
By talking about it and sharing with other moms.....that is how I survived. helps to KNOW that our angels are in Heaven waiting on us. I love you....and you have my phone number is (423) 322-0694 if you need to talk.
Just by remembering how I felt during that time, God's timing is always...he allowed "things" to happen near your blogging schedule so that you could "talk about it". Hang in there.....

Wendy said...

Tara it is so true what Kathy says you just never know who God is going to put in your path to minister too. After I had a miscarriage two other ladies had them in my church. Yes, I still could have ministered without the miscarriage but I would have never been able to understand the hurt these ladies were feeling. Thank you for being so transparent.
We are your sisters in Christ and we will pray for you.