Monday, June 28, 2010

Guard Your Marriage Girls!

Over the last few months I have had the unhappy front row seat to watch my friends' marriage crumble and fall apart. Their issues did not begin overnight, and neither one was unfaithful to other, but now a loving family is now trying to redefine themselves into two households.

He is a seminary graduate and has been a minister. She is a nurse and has been a dedicated church servant. They have two beautiful children under the age of seven who are now trying to understand why mommy lives somewhere else.

Both have been lovingly, Biblically confronted with their sin. They sought counselling. But now one has quit trying completely and it looks like all that is left is few signatures on several pieces of paper.

We know marriage is hard. Then when the stresses of ministry are piled on top, sometimes it can be overwhelming. Communication becomes strained. Appearances are kept, but the joy is gone. One or both people are left wondering if there isn't more than this. Soon someone wants out.

Unfortunately, I have seen this happen with ministry couples before - one couple with over 20 years of marriage and two grown children. Ladies, if it can happen to them, it can happen to you.

If you are reading this and can too closely identify with my friends, it is not too late. God can redeem your marriage. Seek help.

If you are reading this and have some advice or lesson that God has taught you about marriage, please take a moment and post your wise words. It may be exactly what one of your ministry sisters need to hear!

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