I learned in the early years of our marriage that Wally does things on his own timetable. Whether he needs to cut his hair or the grass, he will get it done when he is good and ready. I might need to buy a bigger bottle of shampoo in the meantime, but he will eventually submit to the barber's shears and drop the $15 or so. The backyard may look to everyone else that we've been on vacation for 6 weeks, but I will make the pitcher of sweet tea when he cranks the push mower up and begins to mow.
My husband is a "big boy." He has one momma, and I sure don't want to take her place. The last thing Wally needs is me telling him what I think he ought to do. Yes, mowing the lawn and getting his hair cut are two pretty minor issues. But, he needs to know that I trust him with those small responsibilities. It is through those "petty" concerns that he can take confidence in knowing that I have his back in the bigger ones.
Yes, he seeks my opinions on bigger things, but I really believe it is because I don't nag him on the smaller ones. I respect his capabilities by regarding him as an adult - not another one of the kids. It is through these little, every day interactions I show that respect. I submit to his leadership. I submit to him and, by doing so, I submit to God.
So whether it takes him a month to mow the grass or six month to call the roofers. I will wait on him to take the lead, trusting God to lead and direct him. Afterall, that is God's job, not mine!
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